5 Secrets To Restore Your Hope

Hope. It is one of the most important and invaluable things you will carry throughout your lifetime. Sometimes it is a light that burns so brightly it pierces the darkness and illuminates your way forward.

Like any eternal flame, it is both fragile and precious. It must be nourished, nurtured and protected at all costs. Here are 5 secrets to restoring your hope.

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1. Believe Your Goals Are Attainable

You may forget to tend to hope during difficult times. It’s understandable and human. Know that your flame can weaken. It might seem to vanish altogether, but the embers are there, warm and waiting to be stoked.  

Tend to your fire of hope.

Developing a sound strategy and good tools for restoring and renewing your hope is critically important. Belief in the power of hope and the conviction of your dreams is also crucial.

You’re hope is not a question about If but more a question about When.

2. Self-Pity Extinguishes Your Hope

Your light and your life is inextricably bound to others. There is still too much you have yet to do in the time allotted to be hobbled by self-pity or give in to despair.

Life can be unfair. Dreams can be vanquished. You could feel all alone. The best way to stay miserable is to nurture your struggles with excuses. Instead, find your gratitude. It will fuel your desire to keep restoring your hope.

3. Identify What Makes You Feel Defeated

Removing your obstacles or emotional barriers will make it much easier to let your life and light thrive.

Avoid critical self-talk and negative people who deliberately besiege the beautiful towers and ramparts you’ve lit and constructed in your life.

There is so much more to build…shining beacons and modest monuments to life’s wonders and your greatest achievements, placed on high bluffs and promontories. 

4. Create Your Plan

If you falter, make a plan with a timeline and deadlines for overcoming any setbacks or barriers. Take mindful and measured steps. 

Celebrate each small victory. Forward is forward.

Disallow any time for dwelling or ruminating. It just wastes precious time. 

1. Determine what you want. 

2. Create which steps you need to get yourself there. 

3. Include deadlines.

“You drown not by falling into a river, but by staying submerged in it.”
~ Paulo Coelho 

But a guy who answers honestly will immediately respond to your question, and will likely be curious as to what made you ask the question in the first place. 

People who lie are not genuinely curious about what it was that made you ask in the first place.

5. Develop The Art Of Patience

Be tolerant with the world but mostly with yourself. Every mistake you make, and you will make many if you push yourself forward, is another lesson learned. 

Use your mistakes to your best advantage.

Remaining positive, centered and aware of your emotions will help you recognize the important signposts, clues and people you may come across along the way. 


There is no roadmap. You have to make your own.

Strive to surround yourself with those who inspire hope, who fill a room with light and color and renewal. They are stars in the void and their ideas will be your beacons to help guide you home.

Like knowledge, hope is a gift which we can both offer and receive.

Recognize your hopes are not only attainable but are attractive and infectious and can create a ripple effect in life, helping not only  those who possess it but also those they touch along the way. They can become an essential part of who we have the potential to touch and to become. 

Believe in at least one good and true thing that has a measure of pure grace. This is your constant and can aid you while torch-bearing.

Hope is a fire within that requires attention and tending. 

And with it, it is time to begin again.

Lisa Ryan

Relationship Expert – Infidelity Specialist – Personal Development Coach

Loves the big blue sea, homely dogs, the unvarnished truth, and making people feel better.

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